About two weeks ago I randomly decided to join an online dating site. I've been on different sites before but I've always refused to pay the outrageous amounts of money in order to fully use them. My experiences on past sites has been less than productive anyway. Somehow I attract men that are... let's just say "more mature." There was one man that even looked like Santa Claus! I know I'm an old soul, but seriously?!
I don't know what came over me but I decided to join a site I haven't tried before. I found out that it didn't cost money to talk with people and I was immediately overwhelmed with messages. If you know me, you also know I'm one of the least impulsive people you will ever meet. However, within 24 hours of joining the site I actually went to meet one of the men that I was talking to. It went fine and I was proud of myself for stepping out of my comfort zone.
One thing I've learned so far is that women are not holding men to a standard of how to treat a lady. A lady by definition is "a well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper
behavior." I've heard stories about the things women do and/or say to men on online dating sites. It makes me ashamed to be a woman, and it makes me sad that women don't value themselves more. Now obviously not every woman is a lady, but I think society needs more women who strive to be ladies.
On the opposite side.... where are the gentlemen??? I wonder if "well-mannered and considerate MEN with high standards of proper behavior" even exist. I am learning that the definition of a gentleman is open to interpretation. I know it is old fashioned but I believe that a gentleman is courteous, gentle, treats others with respect, and does not take advantage of others. It appears to me that men aren't looking for ladies because of the effort they have to put forth.
While the terms lady and gentleman may be relative to the person speaking about them, I don't believe that the term Christian should be. A lot of people say they are a Christian. Unfortunately, it has turned into another pick-up line. A Christian, someone who professes to follow Jesus Christ, should be following the teachings of Christ and it should be evident in the way he/she lives. Just like it saddens me as a woman that other women don't posses enough self-worth to hold men to higher standards, it bereaves me as a Christian that there is not a significant difference in the way someone who professes to be a Christian acts and the way a non-Christian acts. I haven't been able to tell a difference, and if I can't....
I believe a Christian woman should be a lady, and a Christian man should be a gentleman. I know it's the Social Worker in me, but now I want to explore the thought processes people have on these dating sites. How will they react to someone who is a lady and demands the treatment of a gentleman? Are there men that understand, respect, and share the convictions of a Christian woman? Can men handle a woman who has a high standard for proper behavior? I am having fun meeting new people, and if I happen to come across a Christian gentleman I will snatch him up as fast as I can :D
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